Saving Relationships!

A Man’s Role in Saving our Relationships . Relationship - the first man in the world who was in a relationship. Adam was alone. He wanted a wife. He asked God for a wife and God created Eve to be an "ezer k'negdo" -- a helper opposing him or a helper against him (Genesis, 2:18). If a man works on himself and develops himself to be worthy, the woman will be his partner. If he doesn't, she will be against him . Four Principles for Men to Follow: 1.) Personal responsibility and accountability – As human beings, we are endowed with freedom of choice, and we cannot shuffle off our responsibility upon the shoulders of God or nature. We must shoulder it ourselves. It is up to us. - A. J. Toynbee 2.) Show leadership - If a man wants to be seen as worthy and have a good relationship with a woman, he has to show leadership. When he sees a situation that needs to be dealt with, he should step forward and handle it. People admire those who step forward to handle difficult situations. Some men avoid taking the lead because they don't want to be criticized or they don’t know how. When you are a leader you help others to realize, meet, and eventually exceed their potential. A man must lead by example. That woman will never respect what she doesn’t see. 3.) Make Decision - A man needs to make decisions and take responsibility for the outcome. If he's reluctant to make decisions, she may resent him. Part of making decisions is understanding the other person's views and being flexible. She doesn't want someone controlling her, but she also doesn't want someone who leaves every decision to her. A man who is afraid of making a wrong decision should ask himself: Who should make decisions? -- someone who isn't afraid of making mistakes. Men must be decision-makers, yet allow the woman to be a partner through respect, understanding, and acknowledgement that what she thinks does nmatter 4.) Be strong - Who is strong? He who can control his passions (Ethics of the Fathers, 4:1). Someone who can control his anger is better than a physically strong man who can conquer a city. Blowing up in anger can seriously damage a relationship. If a man thinks he can't control his anger, then seeking instructions on how to become centered in peace and calm is key.- Manliness is the positive qualities of decisiveness, strength in one's convictions, confidence, self-reliance, high moral qualities, self discipline, honesty and integrity. A man who is manly has courage to be able to deal with difficulty, pain or danger without backing away despite his fear.