Saving Relationships!

A Man’s Role in Saving our Relationships . Relationship - the first man in the world who was in a relationship. Adam was alone. He wanted a wife. He asked God for a wife and God created Eve to be an "ezer k'negdo" -- a helper opposing him or a helper against him (Genesis, 2:18). If a man works on himself and develops himself to be worthy, the woman will be his partner. If he doesn't, she will be against him . Four Principles for Men to Follow: 1.) Personal responsibility and accountability – As human beings, we are endowed with freedom of choice, and we cannot shuffle off our responsibility upon the shoulders of God or nature. We must shoulder it ourselves. It is up to us. - A. J. Toynbee 2.) Show leadership - If a man wants to be seen as worthy and have a good relationship with a woman, he has to show leadership. When he sees a situation that needs to be dealt with, he should step forward and handle it. People admire those who step forward to handle difficult situations. Some men avoid taking the lead because they don't want to be criticized or they don’t know how. When you are a leader you help others to realize, meet, and eventually exceed their potential. A man must lead by example. That woman will never respect what she doesn’t see. 3.) Make Decision - A man needs to make decisions and take responsibility for the outcome. If he's reluctant to make decisions, she may resent him. Part of making decisions is understanding the other person's views and being flexible. She doesn't want someone controlling her, but she also doesn't want someone who leaves every decision to her. A man who is afraid of making a wrong decision should ask himself: Who should make decisions? -- someone who isn't afraid of making mistakes. Men must be decision-makers, yet allow the woman to be a partner through respect, understanding, and acknowledgement that what she thinks does nmatter 4.) Be strong - Who is strong? He who can control his passions (Ethics of the Fathers, 4:1). Someone who can control his anger is better than a physically strong man who can conquer a city. Blowing up in anger can seriously damage a relationship. If a man thinks he can't control his anger, then seeking instructions on how to become centered in peace and calm is key.- Manliness is the positive qualities of decisiveness, strength in one's convictions, confidence, self-reliance, high moral qualities, self discipline, honesty and integrity. A man who is manly has courage to be able to deal with difficulty, pain or danger without backing away despite his fear.

Love comes from within!

Love is worth more than any dollar amount. The four letter word is bigger than any word in the dictionary. Love holds more weight than all of us put together, so why not spread the love and learn how to love one another

Mend and move on!

• As bad as we all want to mend things, it's best sometimes to accept them as the other person see fit and move on but know in your heart and mind you forgive but won't forget. Don't let others deprive you of your happiness because of their bitterness. It's a bitterness toward themselves. It's a MUST that you love yourself if you plan on loving anyone else. Love doesn't mean to take away, it means to give.

Create a new look!

Bury your past and do not allow it to re-incarnate itself. Suggestion: Cremate your past.

Open your eyes!

You are BORN with greatness but do you know how to live it? Don't waste your greatness by taking shortcuts. Sometimes we have to go on long journeys before we can find that greatness within. Don't give up, it's closer than you think.

Love is in the air!

For you Ladies....Fellas treat her like the Queen she is. Be kind, considerate, courteous but most importantly honest. She only wants honesty. She is tired of all the lies. Give her all of you if there is anything left. No woman wants a washed up man who can barely carry his own weight. Women pack heavy so she needs you to carry her baggage. Her load is worth it so dump the ego and show her you are a man that can lead her. Know that she has been through it so please be patient. Make her feel safe and comfortable and she will be there forever. Love her unconditionally like there is no tomorrow. She has been waiting on a man like you, so can you please come equipped and end all her sorrow. She is as precious as a Teddy bear so please handle her with gentle care. She is not the one to go here and there, she just want one man who is ready to share. If you are serious can you make her one promise.......You will be there! Love is in the air

A brief insight to a woman: A Man's perspective Part 1

You are someone whose spirit is absolutely beautiful. Her presence can fill any empty room. When she smiles, a rough day doesn't seem so bad after all. She gives without looking for anything in return because she believes in altruism. She adds value to the lives of those she comes in contact with. She knows who she is and... doesn't try to be anything she is not. Her personality makes you remember who she is even if you forget her name. Her eyes are the gateway to her soul that she doesn't mind sharing because she's honest. She is a living example of a human being who has been through trials and tribulations, yet despite everything in this lifetime that has tried to break her she has overcome and she is still standing tall with her head held high to the sky. There is so much more that I can say about this woman, but if you can't relate to what I have said thus far then maybe this woman is not you. But that doesn't make you less perfect for who you really are.

When you think God isn’t listening: A Conversation

You can rest assure that hard times will fall upon you and when they do what is one of the first things people tell you to do, “Pray about it.” Like that is some magical, mystical cure all solution that will somehow, someway take all of your problems away. Your reply, “I’ve prayed about it, but God isn’t listening because nothing has happened. I’ve been asking, and asking and asking; doing my due diligence to be obedient, yet to no avail; nothing.



Then what’s the second thing people like to say, ‘Well you just have to have faith.” Faith; faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. So basically what you’re telling me is that I should be hopeful for something that I cannot see. Is that like hoping for a new bike for Christmas, knowing that you’re on welfare and you’re not quite sure how the light bill is going to get paid this month?



Then what’s the third thing people like to say, “Well everything is in God’s time, you just have to be patient.” Patience, is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. So I should be patient for as long as it takes, not knowing whether or not there is actually light at the end of the tunnel?!



Then what’s the fourth thing people like to say, “Well this is only temporary, God never said that there wouldn’t be any rain,” if there wasn’t any rain how could you ever appreciate the sunshine.” Are you serious? So what you’re telling me is that I have to endure hardships in order to appreciate good fortunes. I am grateful every single day of my life because when I look around I see people struggling every where and I look at them with empathy, and quietly say to myself thank you God for that could be me.

Even Jesus got upset, got mad, threw things around the church because he was disappointed at what he saw. He even asked God why did he forsaken him? These were words of desperation that captured Jesus' soul in agony as he hung upon the cross. He had been beaten with rods, spat upon, mocked, ridiculed, carried his own cross, nailed down, hung exposed before a jeering mob as his life ebbed away.

In this moment of desperation, he beared the weight of our sin so we could become God's righteousness. He felt abandoned, forsaken, betrayed, and denied by those who were closest to him. He even felt abandoned by God, he wanted God to deliver him from this horrible moment. So if the son of God can endure such unthinkable hardships, so can you. Now I know what you’re saying, “well I’m not Jesus.” Jesus was sent here for a divine purpose, he had a mission to fulfill and so he was made strong to endure. But keep in mind Jesus was still human, he breathed oxygen just like you in order to live. God is in all of us and although sometimes it’s not always apparent that God is listening, rest assure that he hears every whisper, every cry, every single word you utter. In this lifetime sometimes all you can do is simply hold on. God is listening, and how do I know this you ask? Because you are still here searching for answers that no one else can answer, but God. The real question is, “Are your ears, heart, and mind open to receive what he has to say? and “Are you willing to do whatever it takes once you hear his response to your request?” Acceptance of God’s word is something that many people cannot grasp because they are too busy concerned about what it is that they think they want and need, or they think that they know what’s best for them. So the next time you find yourself wondering if God is listening, ask yourself are you.