Love yourself first!

Many of us may have been slighted as a child. Many of us may have missed the Love boat as a child but does that mean we can't learn how to Love as an Adult. We must be an example for our Children. Wake up people. We are the teachers, coaches, mentors but most importantly we have to Love Ourselves. Do you Love yourself? Well I do. Sometimes we have to say to self...."I Love Me."

Victory!!!

Defeat is no Option. We have already Won!

They call it Tender Love!

As a child many of us were disciplined differently.(i.e. no TV, no outside, woopings, etc). Being wooped with an extension cord is that considered physical abuse? Well as a child I thought it was the norm. As I got older, I realized it was abuse. I remember I was afraid to change clothes during gym or wear shorts/tank tops in the summer due to the skin on my body being torn. There are many forms of abuse, physical, mental, sexual, etc. Do you remember of any abuse? if so, what age were you when you experienced it?

A smile says a lot but is it always what it looks. The kid(ME)looks happy in this pic but is he really. I say don't let a smile fool you.
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Peace Beyond to You!

Don’t be afraid to spend time alone. Don’t just settle and spend time with someone just because you are lonely, because you will find yourself disappointed and full of regret. Stop worrying about what others think of you. The best time is self time. Get to know yourself again, because when you go through you will come to……..A Place of Peace!

Take Ownership!

Have you ever been Married or Engaged? What does it feel like to be  left on the side of the road with all your old baggage. Have you considered you may have contributed past problems from previous failed relationships? Well I have never been married but did experience the engagement which FAILED because I made the decision not to look within MYSELF, however, was quick to  blaming the other person.  It’s so easy to blame someone else to take the attention off yourself.

 If you are reading this and haven’t experienced either, I enourage you take this as a lesson and look within yourself before you put blame on someone else. Your relationship could be a success!

Do you Believe God is first?

For those who believe in God understand that he is everything and without him nothing is possible. When God is missing from any relationship that you have whether it's romantic, friendship, sibling, etc. If God is absent from that relationship, is the relationship affected? If so, how?

I have Prevailed!!!!!!!!!

My greatest experiences have been B.O.R.N. from my failures...

Free yourself!

Don't Block your Blessings because of Pain somebody else inflicted on you. Heal yourself first before you infect someone else with the Devil disease (PAIN). Love does not hurt, so don't try to share what you think is Love, however, it is PAIN, a continued disease we all must escape from in order to be our best self to anyone else.

Change has come!

Don't look at me as what I was yesterday, look at me as the person I am today. Change is in all of us. Have you changed?

Why play with somebody elses toys when you can have your own?

Why involve yourself in a romantic relationship with someone else that is MARRIED when you can have your own. Is this a form of insecurity on your part or is it something you saw growing up? What is it? I am a culprit of being involved with a married woman and Thank God I am still alive because it was never revealed! Of course there is more to my story, so if you would like to hear more, sign in as a member. Stay Tuned!!!


Have you or do you know of anyone that has been involved romantically with a married person? How did it end?

Dig Deep and Release Your Past so you can move Forward!!!

Did you know that we all have a past(pain) that effects our life daily? Can you think back to where yours first started? Well I can.(age 10). The only way to move forward is to dig yourself out of your past and go back to where it all started.  We have heard many times in life to let the past go, however, it's best at this time because you are on a journey to HEAL so lets revisit and bury that hatchet. Please....lets have conversation, LETS TALK REAL TALK. Stay tuned for more of my story!!!

LET'S TALK REAL TALK!

LADIES and GENTS……It’s time for MEN to reveal and release that  HIDDEN PAIN. Are you ready for REAL MEN to open up? Relationship talk is around the corner. Please join your Talk Show host K.O. and a panel of  Men. Location and time coming soon. I need one thing from you…..CONFIRMATION. Please inbox me if interested!!! (It’s Time to Heal from Broken Relationships).

Giving is good but don't be a fool!

How can a Relationship work if one party is all in ( i.e. contributing financially, emotionally, etc). Do you think the one that gives their ALL often feel as if they are being used?

Building a Positive Foundation!

It is so important to set a positive foundation because if you don't, your relationship will be all over the place.How you start your relationship is how it's going to flow. I can honestly say, I came in wanting a commitment but didn't have a clue at the time I was going about it the wrong way. Holding on to old baggage or harsh feelings for someone of your past can haunt your future. It's best to be honest in the beginning of your new relationship, however, I don't necessarily believe you should speak on certain things of your past. Revisiting things from your past could be damaging to your current relationship.


Solution: After a break-up, to prevent a disastrous start of a new relationship. I suggest you spend time with yourself and heal. Love yourself again before you attempt to love anyone else.

Don't Blame and Complain if u don't CHANGE!

REAL TALK: Some women are good for putting up with Men garbage (bull crap) yet they complain about how they want him to change. Let the hope factor go. People are who they are so when he doesn't change don't BLAME him, blame yourself for putting up with it. Change comes by divine intervention & proactive behaviors.

What is Pain?

I remember hearing the saying, Pain is a temporary inconvenience! If that's so, why does it linger for so long. Many of us has had  Pain in us since childhood. I can count back to age 10 when my Pain started, can you? B.O.R.N. is as we know, means the BIRTH of. (The Beginning). I encourage each and every one of you to go to the beginning to where your Pain started and just maybe YOU will begin to heal. Remember if your're attempting to build on your relationships you must HEAL first.

Out with the old and in with the New!

Food for thought by B.O.R.N.......Look in the mirror, take ownership for what you do, stop blaming others and just maybe you will see it's not just the other person's fault but something you have been dealing with for quite sometime. Be mindful when taking old baggage to a new location, you can cut down on a long wasted trip! Don't waste your time or anyone else's!

Why force something that's not working.

Don't beat a dead horse. If he's not into you, suck it up and move on. Otherwise you'll subconsciously lower your standards to "get him" making it worse on the collective.

What Men Want!

Food for Thought provided by B.O.R.N. Remember Ladies EVERY man wants a good woman despite him having problems pulling back his layers. Are you that good woman & why?