Reflection!!!

“Have you asked yourself what do have to offer?” Well, first of all you don’t owe anybody anything, but it’s always good to be a blessing in somebody’s life. Remember to treat someone else like you would like to be treated.

Have you looked in the mirror lately? What did u see? Were you happy with yourself? Do you look stressed? Well, I saw a different person in me. My zest and personality was gone. I felt lifeless and didn’t know why. My sleep has been broken every night. What is it? Wait….you can’t tell me, I must figure it out myself…..

Sometimes experiences we think are bad could be OUR greatest experience. Don't regret what YOU decided to involve yourself in, just learn from it and be a better person moving forward.

Look in the mirror, take ownership for what you do; stop blaming others and just maybe you will see it's not just the other person's fault, but something you have been dealing with for quite sometime. Be mindful when taking old baggage to a new location, you can cut down on a long wasted trip! Don't waste your time or anyone else's!

Many of us say we know ourselves. Do you really know yourself? Back up and think about it, don't be nervous or afraid of the question. Do you really know yourself? Well, if you do.....then why do you continue to say or do something to hurt a person and later say, I didn't mean to do or say that!

Release and let go!!!

Message from B.O.R.N...When you hate someone you will not be able to let them go. Hate is a disease, it attacks you from all angles (mentally,spiritually,physically, emotionally and financially). Exiting a relationship with love will allow you to move on and let go, but only if you have power over yourself. Many of us no longer have power over ourselves however, our power lies within the other person. It takes too much energy to hate. Use that energy and exert it into loving yourself and others around you.

Preparation is KEY!!!

Message from B.O.R.N....For those that are looking to be Married soon or in the near future. PLEASE know that Premarital Counseling is EXTREMELY important. Stop thinking just because you have been with a person for a long time that you know everything about them.You may know what turns them on but do you know what triggers them? Sometimes a person don't share everything or the right questions are not asked. Make better preparation for a long successful marriage.

Humility is Free!!!

We can walk, talk, see, smell , taste,hear ,touch so why shall we complain when we have everything. Well let me tell you why, because we are never satisfied or happy instead we are self centered and want everything for ourselves. We must learn how to be humble like we once were when many of us were growing up in the projects and didn't have anything. Now that many of us have multiple degrees, great paying jobs, houses, nice cars,etc.we sometimes forget where we come from. Let's show humility and help the less fortunate by encouraging them that they Can DO IT. I will always remember who I am and where I come from"CABRINI GREEN"

No More!!!!

Message from B.O.R.N...Ladies: If he curses you, pushes, slaps, chokes, or punches you, then turn around and say "I'm sorry" Well he's not. Know that he did it before you but got away with it. If he did it to you once, he will do it again and again. Don't no real man do that to a woman, only a Beast, a Coward, only a man who hates himself and life. Love don't hurt, Love don't kill you, only the devil. Make a difference, save your life or someone else's, report it. You don't have to be the next victim.... Domestic violence has to STOP but you have to say No More. Stop domestic violence Now.

Know your WORTH!!!

To all the ladies...Life is a ride, a roller coaster ride....up and down all around. As a man, I have decided to sit still and absorb the hit, that's what a real man does, cover, protect and lead his woman not quit. His lead is not power or control over her but a comfort for her to trust and believe he will guide her in the right direction. If a man wants a woman to submit, then he must COMMIT to God. I am worthy..... I am King and you are Queen.

I admire you for you !!!

A woman would be much better off if she could distinguish the difference between a man that flatters her & a man that compliments her...a man that spends money on her & a man that invests in her...a man that views her as property & a man that views her properly...a man that lusts after her & a man that loves her...a man that believes he is Gods gift to women & a man that REMEMBERS a woman was God's gift to man....

How about she had a husband, money and still wasn't happy.

College Days; home for the summer 1989 (sophomore)

I had just pledged Kappa at 20 yrs old. Came home for the summer, went out to a club that night and met a woman who was married to an NBA player. She didn’t tell me the night I met her. The next day she calls and “asks if she could see me”. I was home for the summer, staying with my sister on the northside of Chicago. My sister had just left for work, she came over. I would never forget she asked me “what was I doing for the summer” and “I replied, I’m looking for a job”. She says, “you don’t have to work this summer I will take care of you and to prove it,” she gave me all the money she had in her purse, $500.00.Stay tuned, more to come.....

She asked, “ if she could see me the next day” I said, “yes”. The next day she gave me a couple thousand dollars. With that money I bought suits starting at a price of 1,000 or more, rented cars for a week at a time, and went to all the parties. Stay tuned, more to come.....

Her husband had a basketball shoe contract and I would get gym shoes from her and pass them out to the guys in my neighborhood,Cabrini Green. They praised me like I was a king. I didn’t like this woman, because I had several other girlfriends, but I liked her money. As I continued to get more money, she got slick on me, made me wait for her to come over to give me something, so I could buy another suit for a party. She start controlling me through her money, knowing that I didn’t have a job, I felt powerless because I had become co-dependent on her. I was a male prostitute. I got angry and didn’t care about money anymore. I was on my way back to college so I no longer cared, I let her go.

I have been B.O.R.N. again!!!

I thank my mom for not giving me the things I wanted but the things I needed. I forgive my mom for making her mistakes but thank her for giving me experiences to do/be better. Without my failures I could not succeed. I thank my Ex for the lessons she taught me, without her I couldn't heal from past pain. We were placed in each life for a reason. I forgive my haters/doubters/naysayers, you are my motivator. To all the players, keep on playing but know there are repercussions. To all that think they knew or know me, I have transformed. I no longer care what you think of me. I thank God for allowing me to be B.O.R.N.