13 things men look for in a woman....

1.) Is Intelligent – Someone who brings some intellectual substance to the table. Sure we can have some mindless conversation for fun, but finding a woman that can stimulate his mind is a must. No one wants eye candy that has the intelligence of a rock. 2.) Can Add value – A man needs to feel that you are adding value to his life. He doesn’t want to feel as though he’s not getting returned value in exchange for what he is giving. He wants to be able to learn from you. Women balance this universe; without women, men would be completely and utterly lost. 3.) Engages in Stimulating Conversation – Someone who does not have redundant and boring conversation is essential. Be a conversationalist, you don’t have to know everything, but when a conversation ends, he looks forward to the next time he will talk to you. 4.) Knows how “To Be” – Most people simply don’t get this concept. Ferris Bueller said it best, “Life moves pretty fast. You don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Everything doesn’t have to be the end of the world. It doesn’t have to be emotional and dramatic. Sometimes you just have to learn to simply “Just Be.” 5.) Will Accept and Embrace who he is – Do you really want to date yourself? You are not always going to agree and/or like how your man chooses to operate because he is who he is. The goal is not to change him, for that’s a futile attempt. Accepting and embracing who he is and understanding why he is the way he is will go a long way; and if your patient you just may be surprised; it just may strengthen your relationship. 6.) Take Pride in her Appearance – A woman who takes pride in her image and makes her health a priority is a complete turn and a must. Everyone needs self-care; a man will take notice of a woman who is keeping it together no matter how old she is. 7.) Respects herself – A man will sleep with a promiscuous woman, but he won’t introduce her to his family and friends, let alone marry her. 8.) Understands how to be submissive– Many women get this term confused. Submissive is not synonymous with slavery or servant. It means that you respect the fact that your man is a man. And you -need to allow him to be that. Many women are raised to be independent and so strong willed; that many times they don’t allow a man to take the reign’s and treat you like the queen that you are. Men have fragile egos, they are simply built that way; genuinely allowing a man to lead while you two lead together is critical. 9.) Has a Calm Spirit – Some women think that holding a man accountable and not taking any mess is synonymous with being a strong woman. Stop it! It’s not! No man wants a woman who constantly complains whines and uses profanity as a way to get her point across. You can be a strong – assertive – humble – straight shooter– effective communicator without all the extra nonsense of a raised voice, neck rolling, finger pointing and idle threats about what he needs to do. Know the difference please. 10.) Engages in Sex Often – Contrary to many women beliefs a man can be faithful. And no it is never an excuse or justifiable for a man cheating on you. However, your best bet is to never allow your man to go out into the world horny and wishing you would engage in sex with him more. This is setting the stage for disaster. When a man is full, more times than not he doesn’t want to overeat. BTW, creativity and innovation in those sexual encounters is a plus. 11.) Can Cook – We all love to eat, especially men. Men are even cooking more nowadays. But a woman who can cook will not only keep a smile on his face, but a woman who enjoys cooking and cooks with pride says a lot about her a person. 12.) Who knows who she is – if you don’t know who you are you can’t expect anything from anyone else. A man who knows who he is will be able to tell if you know who you are. 13.) Has a Relationship with God – Maya Angelou said, “A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.”