Monday, June 20, 2011

Let’s Talk About Love

If love was a drug I would be an addict, a crackhead, butt naked in a corner sweaty and scratching just like Pookie in New Jack City saying, “Scotty save me I’m gonna die.” By a round of applause how many people here have experienced love. See what I’m saying a room full of crackheads. What is it about love that makes people so damn crazy, stalking people, hanging up the phone and calling right back, leaving voice messages on the answering machine until its completely full and then showing up unannounced to their house snapping off saying, “damn you wasn’t gonna call me back”.
Then there’s that whole thing about being “in love”, now that some ole europhia overzealous high you get from the newness of the relationship, or what people like to call the honeymoon phase. Loving everything about that person while you ignore all of their major flaws like the fact that they are crazy as hell, or ladies you keep catching your man up in lies but you love him so you keep giving his sorry ass multiple chances because you remember how sweet he was in the beginning of the relationship and you continue to have that hope factor that things will get better. How many times are you going to excuse his trifling ways because he wants to have sex with you and for a brief suspended moment in time you feel good until you can’t reach him on his cell phone all night long because his battery was dead or he was sleep, yeah right. And fellas how many times are you going to cheat on your woman claiming it was just sex, it didn’t mean anything, as you use the classic line “I love my woman but I have needs”, so simple. Ladies don’t clap because you are the same person that keeps taking his sorry self back knowing he’s probably going to mess up again. Then you go crying to your girlfriends about him treating you so bad. Get over his ass and keep it moving, that’s not love that’s called tolerance. Isn’t it amazing how you can be in love with someone and then you find yourself wondering how in the hell did you ever even like this person.
Break the cycle I say… love yourself more, true it’s easier said than done, but love knows when to stay and it knows when to walk away. Some say that love hurts, --No-- love doesn’t hurt people do. Some say that love is blind, --No--infatuation is blind. A big butt or money and status is not love, it’s a poor excuse to get temporary satisfaction that ultimately exposes how shallow one is for seeking tangible things that meet an immediate gratification that only last for a short while and when its gone it’s on to the next.
Yeah we could talk about this love thing all day long until we are blue in the face. But bottom line, love is what you make it and who you make it with, love is what you do and what you say, it’s a feeling and an action. It can make you happy and it can make you sad, it can cause you to have sleepless nights and it can make you feel that you can do anything. It’s an array of emotions that keeps the heart unbalanced and the mind confused yet we all need it in order to survive. So the next time you talk about love, make sure you always remember that life without love in it no life at all. BY- NinodeDios

Sunday, June 19, 2011

A Woman’s Love can Heal, but it’s Time for Men to “Man Up”

The first love men ever experience is the love of a mother. This love is the foundation, upon which men will view and receive love. The mother-son, grandmother-son, godmother-son relationships create expectations of what many men perceive love looks like and what it feels like. Women are nurturers; this message begins as soon as they are given that first doll. The touch, the smile, the indescribable ability to comfort and support can‘t be duplicated, although many men will try. Women express love through emotions that is then shown by their actions. Women love men fearlessly, without apprehension, nor inhibitions in revealing who they are and just how much they love us. Be clear, there are no set rules or guidelines as to how women navigate their hearts: love is not just their action it is a part of them. Unfortunately this same love cannot always be reciprocated by men because to understand women, men must first understand themselves. Knowing who you are is pivotal to understanding where you have been, what you are about, and where you are going. It is by no coincidence that men often engage in relationships with women, not knowing how to connect to the intricacies of woman’s nature, spirit, heart, or emotions because this is learned through careful observation, cannot be taught, is learned by doing. The problem, contrary to popular belief, are that men can be sensitive, emotional, and many carry, yet go to great lengths to hide their insecurities in which all are traits uncommonly seen or discussed. Society teaches that men must show exterior strength at all times; masking their innate ability to be vulnerable and transparent because to do so suggests that men are weak. And yes, men do carry emotional baggage from failed relationships; past hurts, and broken hearts are haphazardly thrown or neatly folded in a suitcase, traveling everywhere these men go. There may be many bags for one man or just one for another. In each instance, all are impeded by their inability to let go; weakening the current relationship. By continuing to look upon past relationships as failures rather than relationships that were not meant to be, haunt men, burdening them forever and it will be difficult for them to love freely
No man is an island. Yet he stands alone thinking that he has it all under control. He navigates through his life constantly searching for who he is and what he wants to be. Men must learn to get out of their own way and realize that in order to truly love someone; they must relinquish all that they are for something that is much greater than themselves. Yet, in order for men to see this clearly it requires a conscious and asserted effort; first acknowledging that it is okay to give freely, but most importantly one must allow himself to heal and the only way to do that is to leave all ego, all of it, on the table. Do not go back and get it. Forget what friend’s think, what society thinks, what they were raised to believe men should and should not do.
I challenge men to be BORN again; let us start healing from within and emerge from our cocoons spun around us by past pain, doubt, failed relationships. It is time to take accountability fellas, time to hold us accountable and “Man Up”. We are not doing women a favor by lying, deceiving, or betraying them. They have and continue to have “our back from day one.”

The first love men ever experience is the love of a mother. This love is the foundation, upon which men will view and receive love. The mother-son, grandmother-son, godmother-son relationships create expectations of what many men perceive love looks like and what it feels like. Women are nurturers; this message begins as soon as they are given that first doll. The touch, the smile, the indescribable ability to comfort and support can‘t be duplicated, although many men will try. Women express love through emotions that is then shown by their actions. Women love men fearlessly, without apprehension, nor inhibitions in revealing who they are and just how much they love us. Be clear, there are no set rules or guidelines as to how women navigate their hearts: love is not just their action it is a part of them. Unfortunately this same love cannot always be reciprocated by men because to understand women, men must first understand themselves. Knowing who you are is pivotal to understanding where you have been, what you are about, and where you are going. It is by no coincidence that men often engage in relationships with women, not knowing how to connect to the intricacies of woman’s nature, spirit, heart, or emotions because this is learned through careful observation, cannot be taught, is learned by doing. The problem, contrary to popular belief, are that men can be sensitive, emotional, and many carry, yet go to great lengths to hide their insecurities in which all are traits uncommonly seen or discussed. Society teaches that men must show exterior strength at all times; masking their innate ability to be vulnerable and transparent because to do so suggests that men are weak. And yes, men do carry emotional baggage from failed relationships; past hurts, and broken hearts are haphazardly thrown or neatly folded in a suitcase, traveling everywhere these men go. There may be many bags for one man or just one for another. In each instance, all are impeded by their inability to let go; weakening the current relationship. By continuing to look upon past relationships as failures rather than relationships that were not meant to be, haunt men, burdening them forever and it will be difficult for them to love freely
No man is an island. Yet he stands alone thinking that he has it all under control. He navigates through his life constantly searching for who he is and what he wants to be. Men must learn to get out of their own way and realize that in order to truly love someone; they must relinquish all that they are for something that is much greater than themselves. Yet, in order for men to see this clearly it requires a conscious and asserted effort; first acknowledging that it is okay to give freely, but most importantly one must allow himself to heal and the only way to do that is to leave all ego, all of it, on the table. Do not go back and get it. Forget what friend’s think, what society thinks, what they were raised to believe men should and should not do.
I challenge men to be BORN again; let us start healing from within and emerge from our cocoons spun around us by past pain, doubt, failed relationships. It is time to take accountability fellas, time to hold us accountable and “Man Up”. We are not doing women a favor by lying, deceiving, or betraying them. They have and continue to have “our back from day one.”

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Dream Big and live out those dreams!

Our Dreams can be a Vision of hope but what is a Vision if we don't Share our Dream....

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Kenny Ollins

"My vision is far beyond what I imagined! We may want something that is good but God gives us something that is greater.......LIFE!!!!!!!!!"

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Keep Being The Strong Woman You Are!

To ALL the LADIES......You are like a Butterfly sitting on top of a cloud in the sky. You are like a Flower developing everyday. You are like a Heart pumping blood, ALWAYS trying to help others. Describing a person like you is....PRICELESS! You are a God spirited, Beautiful, Intelligent, Caring, Considerate, Thoughtful, Amazing, Devoted, Loving, Patient, STRONG Woman, who many admire because YOU always try to inspire. KEEP BEING YOU. Believe That!!!

Thursday, June 2, 2011

Know your Worth!!!

Food for thought provided to you by B.O.R.N. Five minutes of PLEASURE can cost you your life! Be smart play it safe.