Monday, May 21, 2012
Love is in the air!
For you Ladies....Fellas treat her like the Queen she is. Be kind, considerate, courteous but most importantly honest. She only wants honesty. She is tired of all the lies. Give her all of you if there is anything left. No woman wants a washed up man who can barely carry his own weight. Women pack heavy so she needs you to carry her baggage. Her load is worth it so dump the ego and show her you are a man that can lead her. Know that she has been through it so please be patient. Make her feel safe and comfortable and she will be there forever. Love her unconditionally like there is no tomorrow. She has been waiting on a man like you, so can you please come equipped and end all her sorrow. She is as precious as a Teddy bear so please handle her with gentle care. She is not the one to go here and there, she just want one man who is ready to share. If you are serious can you make her one promise.......You will be there! Love is in the air
Wednesday, May 2, 2012
A brief insight to a woman: A Man's perspective Part 1
You are someone whose spirit is absolutely beautiful. Her presence can fill any empty room. When she smiles, a rough day doesn't seem so bad after all. She gives without looking for anything in return because she believes in altruism. She adds value to the lives of those she comes in contact with. She knows who she is and... doesn't try to be anything she is not. Her personality makes you remember who she is even if you forget her name. Her eyes are the gateway to her soul that she doesn't mind sharing because she's honest. She is a living example of a human being who has been through trials and tribulations, yet despite everything in this lifetime that has tried to break her she has overcome and she is still standing tall with her head held high to the sky. There is so much more that I can say about this woman, but if you can't relate to what I have said thus far then maybe this woman is not you. But that doesn't make you less perfect for who you really are.
Wednesday, April 18, 2012
When you think God isn’t listening: A Conversation
You can rest assure that hard times will fall upon you and when they do what is one of the first things people tell you to do, “Pray about it.” Like that is some magical, mystical cure all solution that will somehow, someway take all of your problems away. Your reply, “I’ve prayed about it, but God isn’t listening because nothing has happened. I’ve been asking, and asking and asking; doing my due diligence to be obedient, yet to no avail; nothing.
Then what’s the second thing people like to say, ‘Well you just have to have faith.” Faith; faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. So basically what you’re telling me is that I should be hopeful for something that I cannot see. Is that like hoping for a new bike for Christmas, knowing that you’re on welfare and you’re not quite sure how the light bill is going to get paid this month?
Then what’s the third thing people like to say, “Well everything is in God’s time, you just have to be patient.” Patience, is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. So I should be patient for as long as it takes, not knowing whether or not there is actually light at the end of the tunnel?!
Then what’s the fourth thing people like to say, “Well this is only temporary, God never said that there wouldn’t be any rain,” if there wasn’t any rain how could you ever appreciate the sunshine.” Are you serious? So what you’re telling me is that I have to endure hardships in order to appreciate good fortunes. I am grateful every single day of my life because when I look around I see people struggling every where and I look at them with empathy, and quietly say to myself thank you God for that could be me.
Even Jesus got upset, got mad, threw things around the church because he was disappointed at what he saw. He even asked God why did he forsaken him? These were words of desperation that captured Jesus' soul in agony as he hung upon the cross. He had been beaten with rods, spat upon, mocked, ridiculed, carried his own cross, nailed down, hung exposed before a jeering mob as his life ebbed away.
In this moment of desperation, he beared the weight of our sin so we could become God's righteousness. He felt abandoned, forsaken, betrayed, and denied by those who were closest to him. He even felt abandoned by God, he wanted God to deliver him from this horrible moment. So if the son of God can endure such unthinkable hardships, so can you. Now I know what you’re saying, “well I’m not Jesus.” Jesus was sent here for a divine purpose, he had a mission to fulfill and so he was made strong to endure. But keep in mind Jesus was still human, he breathed oxygen just like you in order to live. God is in all of us and although sometimes it’s not always apparent that God is listening, rest assure that he hears every whisper, every cry, every single word you utter. In this lifetime sometimes all you can do is simply hold on. God is listening, and how do I know this you ask? Because you are still here searching for answers that no one else can answer, but God. The real question is, “Are your ears, heart, and mind open to receive what he has to say? and “Are you willing to do whatever it takes once you hear his response to your request?” Acceptance of God’s word is something that many people cannot grasp because they are too busy concerned about what it is that they think they want and need, or they think that they know what’s best for them. So the next time you find yourself wondering if God is listening, ask yourself are you.
Then what’s the second thing people like to say, ‘Well you just have to have faith.” Faith; faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. So basically what you’re telling me is that I should be hopeful for something that I cannot see. Is that like hoping for a new bike for Christmas, knowing that you’re on welfare and you’re not quite sure how the light bill is going to get paid this month?
Then what’s the third thing people like to say, “Well everything is in God’s time, you just have to be patient.” Patience, is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. So I should be patient for as long as it takes, not knowing whether or not there is actually light at the end of the tunnel?!
Then what’s the fourth thing people like to say, “Well this is only temporary, God never said that there wouldn’t be any rain,” if there wasn’t any rain how could you ever appreciate the sunshine.” Are you serious? So what you’re telling me is that I have to endure hardships in order to appreciate good fortunes. I am grateful every single day of my life because when I look around I see people struggling every where and I look at them with empathy, and quietly say to myself thank you God for that could be me.
Even Jesus got upset, got mad, threw things around the church because he was disappointed at what he saw. He even asked God why did he forsaken him? These were words of desperation that captured Jesus' soul in agony as he hung upon the cross. He had been beaten with rods, spat upon, mocked, ridiculed, carried his own cross, nailed down, hung exposed before a jeering mob as his life ebbed away.
In this moment of desperation, he beared the weight of our sin so we could become God's righteousness. He felt abandoned, forsaken, betrayed, and denied by those who were closest to him. He even felt abandoned by God, he wanted God to deliver him from this horrible moment. So if the son of God can endure such unthinkable hardships, so can you. Now I know what you’re saying, “well I’m not Jesus.” Jesus was sent here for a divine purpose, he had a mission to fulfill and so he was made strong to endure. But keep in mind Jesus was still human, he breathed oxygen just like you in order to live. God is in all of us and although sometimes it’s not always apparent that God is listening, rest assure that he hears every whisper, every cry, every single word you utter. In this lifetime sometimes all you can do is simply hold on. God is listening, and how do I know this you ask? Because you are still here searching for answers that no one else can answer, but God. The real question is, “Are your ears, heart, and mind open to receive what he has to say? and “Are you willing to do whatever it takes once you hear his response to your request?” Acceptance of God’s word is something that many people cannot grasp because they are too busy concerned about what it is that they think they want and need, or they think that they know what’s best for them. So the next time you find yourself wondering if God is listening, ask yourself are you.
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
A call out to the Men!!!
Fellas, Brothers, Men….
When are we going to take ownership and be responsible, accountable and put the ego to the side, support one another, but most importantly stand behind our women? When are we going to let the machoism go and stop worrying about what the next man is saying or thinking about us? We are suppose to set and lead by example! In order for our homes to be at full force we need to stand tall. We have so much strength according to us in the gym (Ballys, L.A.Fitness, Export), but yet we don’t stand strong in the areas we should such as, our homes, children, communities,etc. We can run, but can’t hide. I’m calling a spade a spade because I once lived the same way, but I no longer care what the next man thinks of me because I realize finally it’s not about me. Our children need us. We complain everyday, how they’re doing this and doing that, but don’t forget we were once kids that did the same thing and sometimes worse. We forget we once had parents, whether it was a single mother, who did the same thing we are doing. So the big question is, When do we stop the cycle? Well, I choose to stop it now. I could careless that you ridicule or talk against what I am doing. This picture is bigger than us. We(men) want the finer things in life, beautiful women with nice bodies, nice cars, jobs, but do we want to work at it? Why don’t we talk about how we are going to hold our families and women down; instead we talk about watching basketball players (D.Rose, Kobe, Chris Paul). on television. Why aren’t we trying to find a solution and come up with a plan on how we can better educate our kids against the negative effects of what the media is teaching them such as music videos, video games, etc. We need to pay closer attention to the one person who really makes us and continue to be there for us. Our Woman! Our Queen! Our Wife! or whatever endearing term you choose to use. We act like we can do this without them, but we all know that’s a bunch of crap. How many of us have begged our way back in when we have messed up? I’m sure many are too egotistical to admit it. Well, I will be the first to admit it, I have that’s why I was blessed with the opportunity to come up with something as great as B.O.R.N. (Building Our Relationships NOW). Although many of us have crawled our way back to a lost love, but here’s a better idea, how about don’t mess up the first time. If you know better, then do better, right your wrongs before they exacerbate into a catastrophe. I am not here to judge anyone, however I am speaking the facts. I know it’s not every man, but its the majority of us that fall short. Let’s stand together and mean something to our mother’s, wives, sisters, nieces, etc. What do they all have in common? They are all women, so let’s treat them as such….QUEENS. How do we expect our daughters or future daughters to be treated with respect if we don’t treat women with respect. Kinda backwards and selfish, huh? My plea is let’s take our position and be real men to our little boys who one day will become men. We need to be men, act like men, be better fathers, husbands, show support to one another, be role models to our boys, help raise our girls to be respectful ladies, and build back up our communities. Break the Cycle NOW. Be what God Designed us to be…..Leaders!
When are we going to take ownership and be responsible, accountable and put the ego to the side, support one another, but most importantly stand behind our women? When are we going to let the machoism go and stop worrying about what the next man is saying or thinking about us? We are suppose to set and lead by example! In order for our homes to be at full force we need to stand tall. We have so much strength according to us in the gym (Ballys, L.A.Fitness, Export), but yet we don’t stand strong in the areas we should such as, our homes, children, communities,etc. We can run, but can’t hide. I’m calling a spade a spade because I once lived the same way, but I no longer care what the next man thinks of me because I realize finally it’s not about me. Our children need us. We complain everyday, how they’re doing this and doing that, but don’t forget we were once kids that did the same thing and sometimes worse. We forget we once had parents, whether it was a single mother, who did the same thing we are doing. So the big question is, When do we stop the cycle? Well, I choose to stop it now. I could careless that you ridicule or talk against what I am doing. This picture is bigger than us. We(men) want the finer things in life, beautiful women with nice bodies, nice cars, jobs, but do we want to work at it? Why don’t we talk about how we are going to hold our families and women down; instead we talk about watching basketball players (D.Rose, Kobe, Chris Paul). on television. Why aren’t we trying to find a solution and come up with a plan on how we can better educate our kids against the negative effects of what the media is teaching them such as music videos, video games, etc. We need to pay closer attention to the one person who really makes us and continue to be there for us. Our Woman! Our Queen! Our Wife! or whatever endearing term you choose to use. We act like we can do this without them, but we all know that’s a bunch of crap. How many of us have begged our way back in when we have messed up? I’m sure many are too egotistical to admit it. Well, I will be the first to admit it, I have that’s why I was blessed with the opportunity to come up with something as great as B.O.R.N. (Building Our Relationships NOW). Although many of us have crawled our way back to a lost love, but here’s a better idea, how about don’t mess up the first time. If you know better, then do better, right your wrongs before they exacerbate into a catastrophe. I am not here to judge anyone, however I am speaking the facts. I know it’s not every man, but its the majority of us that fall short. Let’s stand together and mean something to our mother’s, wives, sisters, nieces, etc. What do they all have in common? They are all women, so let’s treat them as such….QUEENS. How do we expect our daughters or future daughters to be treated with respect if we don’t treat women with respect. Kinda backwards and selfish, huh? My plea is let’s take our position and be real men to our little boys who one day will become men. We need to be men, act like men, be better fathers, husbands, show support to one another, be role models to our boys, help raise our girls to be respectful ladies, and build back up our communities. Break the Cycle NOW. Be what God Designed us to be…..Leaders!
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
Know your God!!!
Let's not only give a positive word or Prayer when someone is sad or there has been a death. Let's not only Pray and seek God when we need something or want him to get us out of a bind. Let's support, Pray and lift one another up all the time.....DAILY!! B.O.R.N. all the way...
Move on before it's too late!!!
Message from B.O.R.N. Stop Domestic Violence NOW!!.....Ladies, you don't have to take it. Get out of it when the sign is shown. Save yourself. You should be loved not pounded on or cursed out. Verbal abuse/Profanity leads to physical violence. GET OUT NOW!!!
Know who you have on your side!!!
No matter how talented one may be never let their negative spirit sabotage your hard work or vision. (remove yourself). Everybody's not meant to do business together. That's why it's called reason, season or lifetime. This too applies to relationships. Sometimes as hard as it may sound, you may have to disconnect from family members if they are not on the same page.
The moral of the story: Only bring into your world those that are ready to move forward and for those backsliders, let them feed off your positive energy and if they are hungry, they will take it all in. No matter what, never give up!!!
The moral of the story: Only bring into your world those that are ready to move forward and for those backsliders, let them feed off your positive energy and if they are hungry, they will take it all in. No matter what, never give up!!!
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