Have you ever been Married or Engaged? What does it feel like to be left on the side of the road with all your old baggage. Have you considered you may have contributed past problems from previous failed relationships? Well I have never been married but did experience the engagement which FAILED because I made the decision not to look within MYSELF, however, was quick to blaming the other person. It’s so easy to blame someone else to take the attention off yourself.
If you are reading this and haven’t experienced either, I enourage you take this as a lesson and look within yourself before you put blame on someone else. Your relationship could be a success!
I have definitely experienced this. In my marriage, it was much easier to point at my husband's faults instead of working on my own. If I would have worked on my own issues, I would have discovered that I should not have been married in the first place. It took the demise of that relationship to force me to take ownership of my own thoughts, actions and past. With that, I have been able to work on myself, identify what I really want out of life (and a partner) and I am able to bring more to the table.
ReplyDeleteYou know I was once engaged at an early age (14) and i was in love well was I? Is still the question that i still behold. I wanted her but did she want me. She did but it was kept in secrect..........
ReplyDeleteITS TRULY ABOUT NOT LOOKING INTO SELF BUT BECOMING WILLING TO CHANGE SELF FOR THE SAKE OF OTHERS.
ReplyDeleteI think that to take ownership and not go the blame route can be a challenge for many of us b/c doing so can be such a humbling and vulnerable experience. Either you're admitting to yourself (or to someone else) that you're wrong on some level. We have to get over this bad habit because taking ownership and looking within at our own actions really does lead to our growth and ultimately the health of our relationships. It's definitely something you have to check yourself to be continuously aware of because it's easier, if not second nature, to look externally first to place blame.
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